Commissioner Richard A. Curtis
on
Presumptive Shared Parenting


 

                              RICHARD A. CURTIS
                                 COMMISSIONER
                           Los Angeles County Superior Court
                               400 Civic Center Plaza
                                 Pomona CA 91766

   (909) 6203064
   FAX 620-6547
                                   May 9, 1993

   Hon. Phillip Isenberg
   Chair, Assembly Judiciary Committee
   State Capitol, Room 6005
   Sacramento CA 95814
                                Re: AB 2116 (Solis)

   Dear Assembly Member Isenberg and Other Members of the Committee:

   I have been a Commissioner of the Los Angeles County Superior Court for the last 10 years.
   Nine-and-a-half of those years have been spent presiding over a domestic relations courtroom.
   While I originally requested your permission to speak before this Committee in my letter of April
   29, not as a representative of the Los Angeles County Superior Court, but as an individual jurist, I
   have since shared my views with other members of the Family Law bench in my county. I have
   warned them that I am going to state some pretty strong viewpoints which might be better
   expressed in my capacity as an individual jurist unfettered by the constraints of speaking in an
   official capacity, but I have been given a vote of confidence that my judgment and insight based on
   a decade of domestic relations decision making experience are trusted and I may say anything I
   deem appropriate on behalf of the court. So now I am presenting my views to this Committee both
   as a representative of the Family Law departments of the Los Angeles County Superior Court and
   as an individual jurist. Apart from my fellow bench officers I am presenting on behalf of no group
   save perhaps the children of divorce of California who have no official representatives before your
   Committee. I am also appearing in the capacity of one who is interested in maintaining balance in
   our judicial system and in our body of law.

   I have recently presented many (not all) of the same views to your counterpart committee in the
   Senate regarding SB 1159 (Watson), a measure which I told them addressed a serious issue: that
   of the problems raised when a separated parent determines to relocate the children's residence
   some substantial distance away from the other parent and a community which the children have
   become used to. Its proponents are essentially the same people you will see appearing in support
   of this bill before this Committee. I did not agree with the approach the proponents of SB 1159
   offered for solving the serious problem, and I provided the Senate with what I considered to be a
   much more child-centered, equitable and comprehensive approach.

   I am not willing to accord this bill the similar dignity of recognizing that it addresses any serious
   Issue. It does not. It merely serves as an implement to advance the underlying goal of its
   proponents: that of replacing California's modern child-centered policy of deciding children's living
   arrangements based upon the "best interests" of the child with the Supposedly more modern (but
   actually archaic) notion that their living arrangements should be determined by trying to define
   which parent is (or has been) the child's "primary caretaker" and then presuming that the child's
   best interest will be furthered by maintaining that status. You will not see that phrase used in this
   bill, but you must keep it in mind when examining it, and you must question the proponents about
   their intent behind the entire package of "reforms" they are introducing one-at-a-time (but often in
   bundles) to this Legislature. They were cagey enough not to use the phrase in this bill, but they
   slipped up while they were attempting to amend SB 1159 to rescue it from its original foolishness,
   and they actually used the phrase "primary caretaker" in connection with a lot of inappropriate
   public policy statements they wished to promulgate. I shall return to this subject later.

   WHAT I SEEK TO ACCOMPLISH IN MY COURTROOM

   Divorce is a process -- a growing and learning process. When people come to court in the early
   stages of their divorce they have no knowledge or training about how to go through it unless they
   have been divorced before. I view my role as judge as not being merely a decider of disputes but
   as being an educator as well. If I can help divorcing couples get through the divorce process, both
   legally and emotionally, while avoiding the traps and pitfalls in which I have seen others before
   them become ensnared, then I consider myself to be fulfilling my role. On the mornings when new
   divorce cases come to court I spend about a half hour before cases are called talking to the
   audience about the process, describing how decisions are made, telling them about Conciliation
   Court and the importance of going to the mediator with the attitude that they will be able to agree
   on arrangements for their children rather than brushing off the process and running back to the
   courtroom to knock heads with each other. I show them examples of other people's case files
   ranging from thin, inexpensively settled cases to massive, multi-volume contested cases generating
   attorney fees exceeding $100,000. I ask them to think about whether they would rather spend
   their money creating that kind of case file or on sending their children to college.

   I recognize that they are often bitter, but always in emotional turmoil, worried, nervous, and scared
   -- both about the court process and about their vision of the future for both themselves and their
   children. Therefore, I make available to them a reading list I have created containing reviews of a
   wide variety of books on many topics of interest to divorcing couples. I encourage them to read
   some cf the books in order to use the divorce process to grow as a person. Among the books I
   recommend to them are the magnificent Vicky Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents (Signet (l989])
   and to help their children with their fears and worries Dinosaurs Divorce (Little, Brown (l986) and
   Richard Gardner's Boys and Girls Book about Divorce (Bantam (l97O]). A substantial portion of
   the reading list presents books which are designed to get people to think about their lives. One
   very valuable book suggests that we solve life's problems by picking up a mirror with which to
   examine deeply our own behavior and values and to make positive changes in the only person we
   can change (ourselves) instead of picking up a magnifying glass with which to 5elf-righteously
   examine the other person's behavior in order to blame and accuse and to have a "bad object" upon
   whom to project all of the negative things within our own personalities which we refuse to
   recognize and come to terms with.

   Among the things which I have learned in my years on the bench is that not only is the parties'
   emotional and legal divorce a process, but so is the creation of appropriate custodial arrangements
   for the children. It is rarely productive to try to make permanent custody decisions early in the
   divorce process when the parents and children are at the height of their emotional imbalance --
   which is what the proponents of this bill would have us do by rote formula. Custody determinations
   seem to be best worked out over time as the parents and children settle down and regain stability.
   Successful post-separation parenting is an education process as well. We attempt to educate
   people that the family exists after separation and that it is being transformed into a new shape
   which still has the same people in different locations and with the possibility of adding more
   members. That education process into successful post-separation parenting is assisted
   tremendously by the existing body of California statutory and decisional law which is
   child-centered and emphasizes frequent and continuing contact with both parents, free access to
   information about the child, and shared parenting responsibilities.

   The proposed bills threaten to seriously disrupt that established body of law -- unnecessarily in my
   view -- and to make it far more difficult to obtain cooperative parenting from people in the future.

   WHAT WE HAVE DONE IN THE EAST DISTRICT

   I have presided over a domestic relations department in the East District of the Los Angeles
   County Superior Court (Pomona) since 1986. The East District consistently has the highest or
   second highest number of domestic filings of all the county branch courts (5,206 for fiscal year
   1991-1992, more than many California counties), but our dispositions always meet our filings. We
   have no backlog. The reason we have no backlog is not because the public is shuttled through the
   system like cattle, but because we have succeeded, through the educational process I spoke of
   above, in changing people's expectations and motivations from litigation to settlement. I very clearly
   set forth for the public my expectation that the majority of them will settle their cases, for their
   benefit not mine, and the majority of them live up to that expectation.

   As a result our local family bar has been transformed from fighting tooth and nail with each other to
   one with great collegiality and cooperation. They are comfortable with representing their clients'
   best interests but viewing those best interests to be served better by joint resolution than by
   exposing their clients to the hazards, pain and expense of litigation. Members of the Family Law
   bar from a wide geographical area surrounding our courthouse (including practitioners from three
   counties) take turns as volunteer mediators at our mandatory settlement conferences which frees
   up the commissioners' time to hear cases which must be litigated.

   A smaller but very dedicated group of local Family Law attorneys serve on a panel from which the
   court appoints attorneys to represent children under Civil Code section 4606 in contested custody
   matters. Their services are invaluable in assisting the court to fulfill its duty to protect the best
   interests of the children who come before it. They seek the advice of, and if necessary the
   appointment of, psychologists to assist them in understanding the children's special needs in
   complex cases. The attorneys are usually able to help the parents come to an understanding of their
   children's needs and the best ways of meeting those needs through cooperative post-separation
   parenting, heading off many an incipient custody battle with just a brief court appearance or two.
   They thereby save the parents thousands of dollars of attorney fees and costs and save both the
   parents and the children the emotional pain and turmoil of a prolonged custody battle. If, however,
   the parents insist on going forward with a custody battle, the children are represented in it and have
   someone to shield them from the fallout of the conflict. These attorneys are sometimes paid at their
   regular rate when the parents can afford it, but quite frequently they serve at reduced rates and
   sometimes serve pro bono.

   The Family Law bench, bar, and clerk's office are currently cooperating with two local battered
   women's shelters and other community organizations to set up a domestic violence clinic within the
   courthouse where victims can go for immediate assistance in obtaining restraining orders.

   The atmosphere which we have succeeded in creating in our courthouse is threatened to be upset,
   as it will in all California, if these bills are passed.

   THE DEFICIENCIES AND DEADLY EFFECT OF AB 2116

   I am not going to engage in a serious discussion of AB 2116 because it deserves no serious
   discussion. It is a mean-spirited attack on joint custody brought on behalf of angry, embittered
   parents who are incapable of cooperation in their children's best interest and who only wish to
   bend the court system and our healthy, child-centered body of law to their end of controlling their
   children and controlling the other parent through their children. Thankfully the proponents do not
   represent the mainstream of divorcing parents. It may encourage the Legislature to know, as I am
   sure it already does, that the overwhelming majority of Family Law cases are settled without a
   hearing. Were it otherwise, given the huge number of domestic filings throughout the state, the
   system would collapse of its own weight. Thus, most parents have already taken to heart this
   state's existing public policy expressed in Family Code section 3020 that we "encourage parents to
   share the rights and responsibilities of child rearing in order to effect (the] policy" that their minor
   children be assured of frequent and continuing contact with each parent. Indeed, most parents
   realize that without someone in the court system having to tell them what is appropriate for their
   children. Another large group of parents who do not come by that concept on their own have to
   come to court for some kind of pretrial hearing and they soon learn the concept and its benefits
   from their contacts with a Family Court Service mediator, their own lawyer, the children's lawyer,
   or a bench officer such as myself who will take the time to educate them.

   It helps to recognize, and Family Law judges frequently have to remind even themselves, that the
   hotly contested custody hearings they see in court do not represent the mainstream of divorcing
   and separating parents but only the most contentious and disagreeable of them. As one veteran
   domestic relations judge – J.E.T. Rutter of the Orange County Superior Court -- once told a
   group of us at a statewide meeting: "You know, some people we mediate and mediate and cajole
   and persuade, but you've got to realize that there are about 5% of them that aren't too tightly
   wrapped, so for them you might as well face up to holding a hearing and making a decision." I'm
   here on behalf of the 95%, and the proponents of this bill are here to upset the health and balance
   of the whole system on behalf of the five percent who "aren't too tightly wrapped."

   As this Legislature should well know, the appellate courts interpret legislative intent as much by
   what is stricken from a former statute as by what is expressed in an amended statute. If the
   backers of this bill manage to hornswoggle the Legislature into passing this bill they will have
   succeeded in getting you to say, "The public policy of the State of California is to discourage
   parents to share the rights and responsibilities of child rearing." They will have succeeded in getting
   you to say that "joint legal custody" means that each parent shall have the right to make selfish and
   conflicting decisions relating to the health, education, and welfare of a child guaranteed to put the
   child right back in the middle of their petty personal conflicts where the child has always been.

   The absolute worst aspect of AB 2116, however, is its effort to prohibit trial courts from awarding
   joint custody if either parent objects. No trial judge enjoys seeing the "not-too-tightly-wrapped"
   five percent coming back time after time with their continuing disagreements. Every trial judge has a
   few cases wh~ch elicit a silent groan every time the courtroom door swings open and in they walk.
   If he or she has made a court-imposed joint custody order in an effort to educate these obstinate
   people into trying to be appropriate parents for their children without anything to show for the
   effort except more order to show cause hearings, it won't be long before the judge changes the
   arrangement into a sole custody order. So there is no real problem for the
   "not-too-tightly-wrapped" five percent being forced to live with such an order for very long under
   the law as it now exists. But it is very important that the trial court continue to have the power to
   impose joint custody on the far larger majority of divorcing couples who come to court at the
   outset of their cases tightly wrapped but in an uncooperative frame of mind. If they are forced to
   parent under a joint custody order and are given co-parenting instruction and educational materials
   by the court, by the mediator, by their attorneys or the child's attorney, or by outside agencies,
   most such parents will learn to put aside their differences for the sake of giving their children a
   peaceful life and the benefit of having two involved parents. You simply must not allow an effective
   and progressive legal system to be jerked around by the "not-too-tightly-wrapped" five percent.

   In 1988 the custody-determining section of the Civil Code was amended to clarify that there is no
   presumption for or against joint custody or sole custody (there never was). The backers of this bill
   want not merely a presumption against joint custody, they wish effectively to destroy it. The
   availability of an imposed joint custody order settles cases. I cannot begin to count the number of
   cases in my own experience in which the parent with the lesser custodial time share was willing to
   accept a contact order which was essentially no different from the average sole custody order with
   alternate weekend visitation as long as he or she had the emotional satisfaction of the label "joint
   custody." The phrase standing by itself allows such parents the satisfaction of having their
   importance as a parent acknowledged and their role appreciated.

   DESTROYING THE LEGAL SYSTEM ITSELF

   Without a public policy that encourages joint parental involvement after separation and the power
   of the court to impose it involuntarily there will simply be more custody battles. Anyone can see
   that, even the proponents of this bill. And that is part of their grand plan as well. What will be their
   answer to all the contentious litigation stirred up by this bill? A year or two from now they will be
   back with the final component -- initial custody determinations should be made on the basis of who
   is the "primary caretaker" and this rote formula will (in their opinion) preclude custody battles.

   The legal system (not to speak of the children of divorce of California) cannot afford anything that
   promotes more custody battles. In the current economy with the well known budget crisis it is
   absolutely imperative that no further overloads be put on the legal system. Along with the current
   lack of adequate court funding, over the past several years this Legislature has passed bills
   introducing into the general field of Family Law more complicated procedures requiring ever more
   complex and detailed findings, many of such bills promoted by the very people who will be
   appearing in support of AB 2116. As a result the conduct of Family Law litigation and settlement
   has become overly time-consuming and expensive -- too expensive now for the middle class to
   hire counsel without exhausting a major part of the community estate, and yet too complex for a
   layperson to proceed without a lawyer.

   As fewer and fewer cases are able to be processed in the legal system without herding people
   through it like cattle, due to the complexities of procedure which the Legislature has enacted lately,
   howls of dissatisfaction will arise from the public. And then the people who are in the middle of
   pushing this long-term legislative package your way are going to be back some day soon saying the
   legal system is not responsive to their needs and that Family Law should go to administrative
   boards. Then they will really get justice. Then they will find out what being treated like cattle is all
   about. It does not require much in the way of conspiracy thinking to deduce that this too is part of
   their master plan. They have succeeded in turning the area of child support into a formulaic field of
   presumptions in which computers can make awards with very limited judicial discretion available.
   Once they succeed in getting all their ducks in a row in the area of child custody (this bill being one
   of the principal ducks) they will be able to spring their big surprise: the Primary Caretaker
   Presumption. Then there will be no need for judges. An administrative hearing officer is perfectly
   capable of counting the days (or hours) a child spends with each parent and determining who the
   "primary caretaker" is. The backers of this bill don't 'want equality, they don't want justice, they
   don't want individuals dealt with as unique people each with their own individual needs and
   solutions which would be the delivery mode in the courts. They would be perfectly satisfied with an
   administrative hearing system which delivers cookie cutter results as long as they're playing with a
   deck stacked in their favor. AB 2116 is part of the deck-stacking process.

   Watching the proponents of this bill slip and slide and shuffle and jive as they scramble to amend
   and reamend their language to properly obscure their true intent would be almost laughable if the
   end result were not so deadly serious. They have turned "frequent and continuing contact" into
   "regular and continuing contact" on the first try. On the second try they turned "regular and
   continuing contact" into "meaningful, responsible, and reliable contact." And now on the eve of the
   hearing the author has dropped even that in favor of three "psychobabble" findings imported
   directly from the last version of SB 1159. This song and dance is matched only by their slipping
   and sliding over in the Senate as they try to find a formulation for Senator Watson's "moveaway"
   bill (SB 1159) that will come anywhere near the far superior approach to that problem attorney
   Pamela Stettner and I presented the Senate Judiciary Committee. This constant drafting and
   redrafting of their program must be taxing to them. I am far too wordy to help them out. One of my
   fellow commissioners is much more direct. He decided to draft their legislation for them in five
   lines. Here it is:

                                  AB 2116 (Solis)

   1. a) The Legislature finds and declares that it is the public
   2. policy of the State of California that children not have fathers.
   3. b) In any proceeding under this part, custody of a child
   4. shall be awarded to the parent to whom the child was physically
   5. closest during the thirty days prior to its birth.

   I am not a woman hater. Women have a lot of wonderful qualities that men would do well to
   incorporate within themselves, and they've suffered some pretty despicable treatment at the hands
   of men both in their professional and in their personal lives. But in domestic relations court I get to
   see men and women handing out some pretty atrocious treatment to each other with their children,
   as usual, caught in the middle. Instead of clutching the so-called "primary caretaker" role as the
   determinant of their identity, as the proponents of these measures would have women carve out
   exclusively for themselves, they should be encouraging men to develop the nurturing aspects of
   their own characters so that the children can have the benefit of two "caretaking" parents in the
   best sense of the word, both during and after the breakup of a marriage. Studies have shown that
   single custodial fathers are every bit as capable of nurturing their children in their own way.

   I'm the referee in the war between the sexes. I'm not here to fan the flames but to heal the wounds
   and to get men and women to open-heartedly view each other with love, respect and forgiveness
   -- to accept each other's flaws and failings and to work to make of themselves whole, functioning
   individuals creating a better life for themselves and their children and a better world for us all.
   Although I do accuse the proponents of this bill of a great deal of underhandedness and dishonesty
   (both intellectual and otherwise), I do not attribute evil motives to them. How could I? They see
   themselves as championing the cause of the weak and the downtrodden against an uncaring legal
   system or they see themselves as victims of cruel men and an uncaring legal system. And the
   self-righteousness of their cause imbues them with zealotry and fervor. But like all zealots, victims,
   and self-righteous people they have a peculiarly warped view of reality which prevents them from
   seeing the other side, or in this case, even the middle. They are very, very dangerous, one-sided
   and unbalanced people from whom to take public policy suggestions. These people have a
   legislative program which they have plotted out for years into the future. When you see the same
   faces around here year after year reappearing like a virus and there is no judge around to counter
   what they have to say, just remember what I have presented here today and tell them to take their
   sick, unbalanced, and destructive program and peddle it somewhere else.

   This Legislature and the courts should be promoting love, harmony, concordance and peace. The
   state should promote healing, growth and balance in the lives of divorcing parents and their
   children. I am not suggesting you turn a deaf ear to these advocates and exclude them from the
   process, just receive their message with a highly skeptical ear and begin opening your ears to the
   bench and bar who can help you see the big picture instead of the myopic one.

   THE LEGISLATIVE/ JUDICIAL PARTNERSHIP

   The last point made is an extremely significant one for the future. Unlike the areas of criminal law
   and general civil law wherein the Legislature is lobbied fairly even-handedly by both sides, the area
   of Family Law is unique. You as legislators are constantly lobbied by the fringe groups having
   radical programs to sell you. You do not hear consistently from the vast middle of the Family Law
   field represented by Family Law practitioners, judges, and the overwhelmingly superior numbers of
   less contentious divorcing couples who have been well-served by our progressive and stable body
   of Family Law developed over many years by the Legislature and the courts in partnership.
   Consequently, every year that stable and progressive body of law gets buffeted back and forth and
   destabilized by the Legislature receiving input from and giving credence to only the warped
   perspective of the unbalanced fringe groups on the edge of the field.

   The Senate task force has conducted hearings on Family Law issues at which no doubt many
   disgruntled and distressed litigants appeared. Family Law judges do not have time to go to Senate
   task force hearings; they do not have time to go to Sacramento; they are busy deciding cases.
   Family Law lawyers rarely have time to go to task force hearings and Senate committee hearings in
   Sacramento. They are busy appearing in front of the judges trying to earn a living. Consequently,
   task forces and other fact finding bodies are subjected to far more input from unhappy and
   distressed members of the public than they are ever likely to get from those who stand in the
   middle and can speak with some professional and expert knowledge of the totality of the picture.
   Task forces and committees sure are not likely to get much input from happy and satisfied
   customers of the court process. Why would they be motivated to come to hearings?

   Disgruntled litigants hold up an excellent mirror in which the judicial system may examine its
   shortcomings. Disgruntled litigants are, however, a horrible and unreliable source for curing those
   ills because the stridency of their dissatisfaction promotes overreaction by the Legislature and
   imbalance in the opposite direction. Instead, before coming to final solutions on any measure which
   proposes to make sweeping changes in the field of Family Law, this Committee and the Legislature
   should rely on the experts in the trenches -- your Family Law bench and bar. Every March I meet
   with the statewide Family Law judiciary at the California Center for Judicial Education and
   Research Family Law Institute. Over the past nine years I have come to know the other judges
   who perform the same tasks as I in other counties around the state, and I have found them to be a
   group of dedicated, intelligent, caring human beings who do not want to cause anyone who comes
   before them unnecessary grief and pain. They are committed to seeing that neither the process nor
   the parents destroy the lives of the children of divorce.

   By the same token, the professional Family Law bar represents both sides of every issue. They are
   intimately familiar with all the details and permutations that can possibly arise in any kind of case.
   Let's keep the legislative/judicial partnership alive and well in Family Law. Let's set up a system
   whereby a committee staffer or someone from a legislative research office gets together with the
   professional staff at the Center for Judicial Education and Research and with the Family Law
   Section of the State Bar to develop comprehensive and detailed questionnaires about the kind of
   legislation that should be passed on any topics of import in Family Law as they arise. There is
   rarely a problem in the Family Law field so drastic that its solution cannot await a slow and
   thoroughly researched process of information gathering.

   This Legislature certainly cannot afford to be making sweeping changes in Family Law based only
   on the kind of thin and highly controversial research which underlies AB 2116. I assure you that
   while we may not be able to come to task force hearings and committee meetings you can expect
   an intelligent response from the bench and bar to any such questionnaires which could be
   developed to open up the law making process to a larger and more stable group.

   DIRE CONSEQUENCES

   My fear is that if the Legislature should in some misguided moment pass this inappropriate bill the
   children of divorce of California will be deprived of one of the court's most effective tools for
   convincing their parents to leave the children out of their fights. Then all of my work of the past
   seven years to create a courtroom where parents learn to see things from their children's point of
   view and learn to cooperate with each other in raising their children after separation will be for
   naught.

   I am sure that your Committee is constantly subjected to the old saw about the baby and the
   bathwater on every contested measure, but it strikes me as applying with literal force to this
   situation. Except it still does not quite fit. If this bill is passed the baby will most assuredly be
   thrown out. But the extremely dirty bathwater won't be and we'll all have to bathe in it.

                     Please do not pass this measure out of committee.

   Sincerely,

   RICHARD A. CURTIS